I often look a myself and I hate everything I see. Not just in look, but also in my personality. Am I good enough, is what I deliver my absolute best always... the phrase “so long as you’ve tried your best”... but what if you aren’t on your best, what if your game is off and all that comes out are the worst parts. I spent so many years trying to change my personality, style, looks, weight to suit the people around me, to bend to their versions of me that I should be. It’s taken a lot of years (and no doubt a lot more to come) to understand that the only version of myself that will ever truly thrive is by being my absolute true self. To stop hating what I see, what I think other people hate when they see me. A guy I dated last year told people (after I ended things) that I was too feminist... ok as Ariana says... thank u, next! I’ve been called fiery, over emotional and I’ve been told to check my ego. I’ve also been called caring, inspirational and passionate... take out of the world what you want to put into. Good and bad. Think I give a hoot or a hate about what people say about me, well yes... but I’m leaning way more on the no side every damn day. This last year has been tough, I’ve had to deal with some intense emotions and I jumped into something I could never have been prepared for. I’ve learnt A LOT. I’ve been a difficult person and I’ve dealt with difficult people. I wouldn’t change it though. I hated myself a lot last year, why can’t I be better at my life, at business, at relationships, at self care, at managing this learning curve, at not crying so much, at being tougher. You know why? Because that isn’t me. I have dealt with it all best I can and I love myself for it. So I’m going to champion all my girls out there to think about something they hate and then think WHY? Why do I hate this? What has it brought me? Am I happier for hating something about me? Because I think we can all agree in today’s world hate gets you nowhere.