The very idea of bringing up children is nonsense. You can help at the most, you cannot bring them up. The very idea of building up children is nonsense—not only nonsense, very harmful, immensely harmful. You cannot build … A child is not a thing, not like a building.
A child is like a tree. Yes, you can help. You can prepare the soil, you can put in fertilizers, you can water, you can watch whether sun reaches the plant or not—that’s all. But it is not that you are building up the plant, it is coming up on its own. You can help, but you cannot bring it up and you cannot build it up.
Children are immense mysteries. The moment you start building them up, the moment you start creating patterns and characters around them, you are imprisoning them. They will never be able to forgive you. And this is the only way they will learn. And they will do the same thing to their children, and so on, so forth.
Each generation goes on giving its neuroses to the new people that come to the earth. And the society persists with all its madness, misery.
No, a different kind of thing is needed now. One has come of age and the family is a thing of the past; it really has no future. The commune will be the thing that can replace the family, and it will be far more beneficial.
But in a commune only meditative people can be together. Only when you know how to celebrate life can you be together; only when you know that space I call meditation can you be together, can you be loving.
One cannot be happy without freedom, and your old family structure destroyed freedom. And because it destroyed freedom it destroyed happiness, it destroyed love. It has been a kind of survival measure. Yes, it has somehow protected the body, but it has destroyed the soul. Now there is no need for it. We have to protect the soul too. That is far more essential and far more important.