"Guys in general are messed up, not just in these parts where there's been widespread violence recently. I mean, just yesterday a friend of mine told me he was considering having a braai and said if I wanted to pull through I should come with hoes. Just like that, in 2019, in this climate, guys are still addressing women as such, just the audacity. I feel bad; I feel sad as a guy with a younger sister - my mother passed away and I was left with the responsibility of looking out for her, a responsibility I took with both hands. As guys, its just late for us. We're so fucked up. I don't know if we don't see the harm we're doing in society but we're messing up. I felt embarrassed just thinking about inviting any of my female friends to join in on the braai... I didn't know what my own friend would do to them because he had already started out by calling them 'hoes'. That term, it didn't sit well with me, for real. It's so messed up bra. We just want girls so that our peers praise us or something... It's so messed up."