Thank you to @whywomendontleave “No one plans on falling in love with an abuser. In fact just the opposite. The abuse can happen slowly over time, one comment here, a huge fight. He pushes you and then things are great for awhile and you get a false sense that everything is okay. You tell yourself it was just an isolated incident. Then he starts fighting with you more and more. You change how you dress to avoid conflict, stop going out with your friends. But it's not "abuse" you tell yourself because he doesn't come home drunk and beat you up. He only pushes you, okay maybe he has hit you once or twice but... It was your fault.
STOP!!! NO Absolutely not. Abuse is abuse. There's never a reason to put your hands on anyone in anger when you're in a relationship. This is true for men or women. When there's name calling, insults, threats, mind games that's is also unacceptable. That's emotional/verbal abuse. It will break your heart and soul. Someone who loves you will not hurt you. Period. If they do, they will be sorry. They will make amends and will not do it again. Please don't tolerate abuse”