Sharing from @allthelittlesdoula
"Twins and higher order multiples just don’t fit the singleton mold purported by most books on child rearing, newborn care, sleep, attachment parenting, breastfeeding etc etc etc.
The hospital or birth facility may or may not have a protocol for twins in the NICU, and if they do it may get thrown out due to lack of resources leaving new parents at the mercy...and fast! .
If you have twins or higher order multiples you know what I’m taking about...they are a beautiful and mysterious universe all on their own.
Those who venture there will find survival mode is the first tactic, divide and conquer the next, and then total surrender...bringing in back up and lots of it!
Things that will be or may be different than a singleton:
1) how your babies are treated medically by paediatricians...they treat the individual, which ultimately is great, but any twin parent knows, seeing both at separate times is a logistical nightmare, especially when the birther is the primary food source...a family physician who treats the whole family might be a better option. Get ready to advocate, push and ask questions!
2) Feeding...a hot, well debated topic, that can lead any new parent feeling shame and guilt in a second flat. .
Listen up...you do you, and don’t worry about anyone else. You have a monster job and you’re getting it done. You’re a freaking superhero and don’t you forget it .
3) Scheduling...feeding on demand might just kill you from exhaustion. Do what you like, but if I can give any new multiple parent any advice it’s to feed them at the same time...if you don’t you may deplete all those good parent vibes really quickly. But, ultimately it’s up to you! .
4)your postpartum period could take longer...your body will be depleted from nurturing them for 8-9 months, and then you’ll be asked to go from 0-100. You won’t get the same rest between feeds like you would with a singleton.
Taking care of you is also a top priority. Call in family, friends and a doula to help.
Think about temporary cleaning services and absolutely have food prepared in advance. It's a wild ride...may the force be with you!"