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by @adwellingplace

I can not pretend that this is what we wanted. - - - - we are preparing for our adoptive daughter to go to a therapeutic residential home. We have no idea how long we will be apart. No idea the steps ahead. We have been living in deep trauma for many years now and we know that this is the next step. If I could advise you on upcoming adoption(s), I would say go for it! But go ready! Do not be Disillusioned by the agencies. Read & study for yourself.. for your family. Attachment disorders are real and very prevalent especially in the eastern European block. God will lead you and guide you even when you don’t know the way. realize that He has a plan even in the darkest places and in your darkest moments. Realize whether you adopt or foster- having that child in your home under your care and your prayer & protection - may be the best possible opportunity for that child to flourish and grow! even when and if they have to move on from that place. Love and hugs to you other
#reactiveattachmentdisorder moms out there!!! I will be happy to let you know how our journey goes as we take the next steps toward healing. #adoptivefamily #orphansunday #showhope #adoptionannouncement #adopting #Olderchildadoption #godisgood #godwilllead


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by @adwellingplace

Been going through and organizing Grace’s things. We saved the shoes we picked her up in from her country. This week has been VERY difficult as we are headed to a new journey of therapy for her. I pray God guides her each and every step. #41willcome #reactiveattachmentdisorder #adoptionjourney #adoptionislove #adoptionstory #olderchildadoption #internationaladoption #adoptionrocks #adoptivemom #traumamama #supportadoptivefamilies


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by @luv1turtle

To my busy special needs moms out there this is for you.

To my other mom friends with busy schedules this is for you.

This time in parenting might be super hard but you are enough for your child/children. #specialneedsmom #traumaparenting #bipolardisorder #ptsd #momof5 #olderchildadoption #parentingishard


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by @wendyrobinette1

Adoption is hard y'all! It is emotionally draining! The waiting game definitely plays its toll on me. But at the end of this journey we will be celebrating our little girl as an official member of this family! All of the anxiety will have been worth it!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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. #adoption #adoptionrocks #adoptionjourney #adoptionislove #adoptionannouncement #adoptionfamily #adopt #olderchildadoption #chosenbylove #adoptionprayer #prayforadoption #adoptionfundraiser #adoptachild


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by @graceandsalt

We went from 0 to 2 kids real fast. It’s almost like we had twins. Except our “twins” have a 5 year age gap, one has SPD, the other has Type 1, I got Type 1 in the mix of it all, and we were homeschooling all in the snap of a finger because suddenly we had a 6 year old overnight.
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My start to motherhood has looked different than most. I don’t really know what it’s like to have just one child. We kind of dove head first into the deep end, part by choice and part just shoved in. Okay, so maybe we didn’t dive in, but more like fumbled and belly flopped in.
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Now that Zola is in school, it’s the first time I’ve just had one child at home and suddenly it’s so much quieter (kind of). And it’s been so sweet for me and Ollie to have time together, just the two of us, while Zola is at school having the time of her life being with people all day long.
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I’m still questioning how I’m old enough to have a third grader, but we’re rolling with it. 👊🏼

San Diego, California
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by @sprout05

Can I just brag on these two kiddos for a minute? Last year reading came slowly to Kate. She would try so hard, but she would stumble on most words and end the book with tears in her eyes. But a switch has flipped and she is flying (I mean FLYING) through books left and right. So proud of her! 🎉 Will had been struggling with patience - over his school work and over having to wait for mom’s attention while she helped siblings. The principal (Dad) called a little meeting, and Will has made a complete turn around. Now he stops mid-lesson to say, “You right, Mom! I have a good attitude and my work go faster!”. 😄 He’s also learning when to slow down and he’s seeing how that reduces his mistakes. I took this picture to show his beautiful cursive today. This boy is amazing! 💙


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by @bythebrookdesigns

Adopting my daughter but not for the reasons you think. I’d prayed and longed to do this and finally got to at 48 and she HATED ME! Not a “ she just needs love and once she feels secure she’ll receive love” kind of way. Her hatred grew with every year. She put me in dangerous situations, lied and said I was trying to kill her so I would be arrested etc. oh the tales I could tell. Here’s the transformation. If you looked at my life you would think that I was a “nice church lady”. I did everything by the rule book. That kind of life without love leads to pride and thinking that you don’t need Christ’s blood or the Holy Spirit to sanctify you any longer. It also leads to a lot of judging. Want to be my friend? I’m really selling myself. So the transformation was realizing a lot of my sins are hidden but they are powerful and needed confessing and still do. Whoever says, "I love God," but hates his brother is a liar. The one who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love the God whom he has not seen. 1john 4:20. It gets me where I live. I also really needed to learn what love meant. I knew it wasn’t a feeling but I really learned and am learning it’s not a feeling, it’s doing what’s best for someone. #10thingstotellyou #olderchildadoption #


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by @luv1turtle

Sometimes taking care of yourself looks like sitting on your deck with a great book & soaking up some vitamin D.

Today I’m taking care of not just my body by doing my workout but my whole self by saying mom needs a timeout. I’m drinking a dark chocolate pb shake that helps my body feel & work better & I’m reading a great personal

It’s ok to take time for you. We all need it in different ways. I think it’s important for our kids to see that us taking care of ourselves makes us better parents as well. development book. #takingcareofmyself #takingcareofmybody #soakingupthevitamind #personaldevelopment #alwayslearning #theyrewatchingyou


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by @natashametzler

As a person who grew up learning about Jesus, for a lot of years I assumed my testimony was a very short story about the day I sat with my dad and asked Jesus to forgive me for my sins. I was five. .
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But I've learned something about faith and testimony and salvation in the years since. The act of salvation is the act of turning my face toward Christ (believing He is there, confessing His position and ability to save me), and if my only story of this is from when I was five, something is drastically wrong. .
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Today's #10thingstotellyou prompt is about defining moments in our lives. Obviously, turning to Jesus is THE thing that has most drastically defined my life. But there isn't just one story from when I was five. .
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There are dozens of stories. .
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There is the story from when I was 12 and I submitted to the Holy Spirit, and when I was 15 and I realized I was desperately loved by God, and when I was 16 and God sent me a note (true story, just search "The Day God Sent Me a Note" on natashametzler.com or Google it with my name). The stories go on and on all through my teen years, into my adult years when I saw God moving during my first year in missions, then in my walk into marriage, then right in the midst of #infertility and #olderchildadoption. .
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And the stories aren't done. Oh, my no. Every day I decide if I will keep my face turned to the Savior or not. And every day, He writes a new testimony, a new defining moment into my life. .
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#definingmoments #alltoJesusIsurrender .
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P.s. tell me one of your Jesus moments! I'd love, love, love to hear them. ♥️
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P.P.S. do you see those beautiful apples?! I love #september in the North.


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by @mrsashleyobrien

This blurry photo: Our oldest & our youngest....they both came home to us at the same time. Bella was 16 & Callie a few days old. Both needed love and care & a roof over their head. Both we expected to leave & neither ever did. They are our bookends. Our unexpected surprise and blessings from God. Both drive us crazy & give us gray hairs. And both love each other in this special way...their bond unshakeable. #lovemakesafamily


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by @luv1turtle

Streaming my workouts is as simple as sitting down to watch my favorite movie on Netflix or Hulu.

A one year subscription comes to $8 a month.
When I had a gym membership years ago it was WAY more than that & half the time I didn’t go because of every excuse in the book.

You get me as your personal cheerleader 📣 coach & you’re part of a community of others trying to also be healthy.😁😁😁 I would love to help you be in the best shape going into the holidays. 💪💪💪 #gettingstrongereveryday #workoutfromhome #fitandover40 #takingcareofme #coachmom #momswithtattoos #traumaparenting #olderchildadoption #momof5 #fitfortheholidays #bipolar #bipolardisorder #ptsd #progressnotperfection #youcandothistoo


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by @thebowles_family

My favorite season has arrived!!!! So let’s take a trip down memory lane!! 🎃

McGrath Street Pumpkin Patch
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by @updateschildren

OLLIE
Born in January 2005, Boy.
Diagnosis: Microcephaly, Hydrocephaly, Cardiomiopathy, cognitive delays, mental delays, deficiency anemia, Oligotrophy.
He has a speech delay; he often says just the first syllable of each word, but in a few days you can understand much of what he is saying. Ollie likes to help, he is a capable boy and so full of life. Don't let him change.
http://deti.zp.ua/show_title.php?keyword=sirot_net


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by @gkrigo

Finally getting around to making Aloo Paratha with Neha only to find out she already knows how to make it. #olderchildadoption #wecouldhavemissedthis #meandmine #round2parenting #indianfood


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by @luv1turtle

It’s hard to remember things as blessings when chaos is surrounding you. Being grateful for the chaos is weird but important to just embrace it. #iamblessed #blessed5times #lifeisablessing #embracingthechaos #traumaparenting #olderchildadoption #bipolar #bipolarawareness


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by @corkboardonline

10 Disastrous Mistakes Parents Make in Older Child Adoption

1. Do not dis your child’s country of origin or family…ever.
2. Do not minimize an older adopted child’s felt discomfort.
3. Do not build expectations based around age.
4. Do not minimize the fears of your older child.
5. Do not push their buttons in return.
6. Do not assume anything.
7. Older adopted kids do not understand sarcasm, logic, or idioms.
8. Do not argue with your child.
9. Do not use consequences to correct behavior.
10. What would you add?

Comment to read full post. I'll DM you a clickable link.
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#nofilter #fallleaves #adoptionishard #adoptivefamily #olderchildadoption #sisters

Harford County, Maryland
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by @thebowles_family

6 years, 6 long years.
5 years of being told it was impossible.
We sadly gave up on the idea of her ever fully being adopted, but here we are!! This month we will sign what we’ve already known in our hearts!
Adoption, here we come!!


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by @one17foundation

Grant application is now open.
Good luck.
One17.org/apply


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by @luv1turtle

Changing your mindset of I Have to to I GET TO.
Be grateful for the busy kid schedule.

Be grateful for your house you get to clean.

Be grateful you have so much laundry to wash.
These things mean you are so blessed

It’s all about changing your mindset. You can complain about those things but others would love to have your “problems”. Remember to be grateful for those things we really don’t enjoy. #changeyourmindset #beinggrateful #momof5 #gratefulheart #busydays


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by @luv1turtle

I was not a fan of this workout today & all I have good to say about it was I finished it. 😖

I sweat a ton so much that I needed 2 towels to keep from sliding on my mat during the exercises from all the sweat.😅😅😅 I’ll do the workout again because it’s in the rotation but I will add my own modifications because surprisingly it didn’t have any!

This is something that I talk with my challengers about. Make sure you’re being safe when exercising & use the modifier or if you aren’t up to the modifier’s speed modify that but just do something.

The next 3 weeks will be interesting & I am trying my best to eat healthy so I can get the best results to see if this program is one I will recommended to future challengers.
If you’re interested in joining one of my challenge groups message me. I have a new one starting in October that’s 4 days a week where you work with weights & do HIIT. I’m doing this one with Hugh Lynn because we’re competitive so if you want to join us message me. #modify #momof5 #momof5kids #specialneedsmom #workoutfromhome #dosomethinggoodforyourself #gettingstrongereveryday #allaboutthebass #fitand41


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by @thebowles_family

Instead of a video today, I did a follow up from the video from Thursday. Self care is vital to a healthy mama! Please use our self care plan, schedule time to yourself, make yourself a priority!
Link in the profile!!


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by @natashametzler

I'll be honest, starting school was rough this year. I jokingly told my husband I think I have PTSD from all the upheaval from last year...and then realized there might be more truth to that than I care to admit. .
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This was the first year I looked seriously at putting the kids in school, but when I looked at my pro-con list, 90% of the pros were for my benefit and all the cons were against them. Needless to say, I'm praying for God to ease my symptoms and to help me learn to love #homeschooling again, because this is what my children need, no matter what would be easier for me. .
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So! Last week we did some hiking and exploring (oh, the mushrooms we found! My daughter said, "I want to see red, orange, yellow, and purple ones!" We found bright red, almost neon orange, and brilliant yellow. I warned her that purple was not a common mushroom color. Guess what? We found one. It was spectacular.) and even the book work went better than I expected. .
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And I'm going to thank the Lord for all that because it certainly didn't come from any abilities of mine. I'm still fighting down panic attacks every time a pencil drops. .
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Here's to #Lizbethy's 7th (!) grade year and #BenjtheRightHandMan's 5th grade year! .
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#RADparenting #reactiveattachmentdisorder #olderchildadoption #trueconfessionsofanadoptivemama


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by @thebowles_family

Time seems to fly at warp speed yet stand still at the same time.
I struggle to believe that this picture is already 3 years old.
The days linger on but the years soar by.


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by @luv1turtle

I’ve been doing EMDR off & on for a while now & had 2 sessions within 3 days this week which is rare & super hard for me.
It’s kicking my butt! Instead of enjoying the weekend with my family at a church retreat I’m processing all of the things.

When you have trauma in your background & you also have trauma children that trigger your trauma it has to stop. So EMDR helps me break that cycle.

I will probably sleep most of the weekend because I do most of my processing in my dreams. So silver lining to the family being away this weekend is I can sleep/process without feeling guilty.

Find a therapist that can help you heal through your trauma. I love that mine text me after an EMDR session the next day to see how I’m doing & if I’m ok. #emdrtherapy #workingthroughthetrauma #traumaparenting #traumarecovery #momof5 #crazymoring #olderchildadoption #processinglifewithhope #neverboring #therapysession


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by @adoptionstar

You may or may not have heard the news a little while ago that Catholic Charities closed due to its unwillingness to comply with NYS's non discrimination rule that contracting organizations allow same-sex couples to foster and adopt children. .
We would like you to know that Adoption STAR has and always will welcome and widely encourage LGBTQIA+ individuals to work with our agency. .
There is no single way to be a family for a child. Loving homes come in all configurations, made stronger by a mix of genders, religions, racial identities and family types. .
After all, it is LOVE that makes a family. If you have love to give, we want to hear from you. . . .
#olderchildadoption #fostercare #fostertoadopt #adoptionstar #adoptionagency #adoptiveparents #adoptionjourney #adoptionislove #fostermom #thisisfostercare #adoptionday #gotchaday #fosterfamily #adoptivefamily #adoptivemom #domesticadoption #foreverfamily #childadoption #socialworklife #forthischildweprayed #familiesareforever #adoptivemom #adoptivedad #adoptivemother #adoptiveparents #adoptiveparent #adoptachild #consideradoption #adoptionisbeautiful #openadoption


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by @faithfulmommy

These two!!! They keep me young and always researching the latest social media dangers!!🤷🏼‍♀️ they keep me laughing and at the same time I’m screaming “uncle” because parenting is hard. Still! I am so thankful for all they bring to our lives. They are what forces me to get out of bed every morning when I just want to hide under the covers and forget everything! They are loved deeply! #adoption #olderchildadoption #Deaf #sheisDeaf #heisnot #asl #americansignlanguage #siblings


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by @thebowles_family

Today’s video is raw and real. I share about days that I wanted to throw in the towel, and felt like God picked the wrong person. Then I go into tips that helped us when we felt like we were barely surviving.
If you’re a family member of friend of a person in the thick of adoption: this video is also for you, watch and get tips on how to better support your family/friend and words not to say. Link in profile


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by @luv1turtle

I have such a busy day if impromptu dr spot for one kid, IEP meetings for 2 kids, choir for another kid then guitar tonight for the other kid.
Calgone cant even touch my day bit at least I started it off right with a sundae shake that acts like a salad! #calgonetakemeaway #momof5 #crazymoring #changingyourmindset #neverborning #thisismycircusandthesearemymonkeys #itsonlythursday #thisbetternotbecontagious #iepmeetingssuck #


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by @natashametzler

These aren't just any ordinary sunflowers. These are the Overcomers. .
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They have overcome a total lack of water that turned them crunchy and brown, torrential downpour because a series of rainstorms came through, being picked at and eaten by a charming toddler, clothespins digging in their dirt like mini excavators (by previously mentioned toddler), and having clothing from the line directly above them fall and bend (but not break) their delicate stems. .
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No, no, these are not ordinary sunflowers. These are the ones that caused my husband to look at me and say, "I don't understand how most of our plants look completely dead before you coax them to bloom." .
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It's not me, of course. God is the only one who can make dead things bloom. .
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And all I can pray is: Dear Lord, work this miracle in my children. Every area that has experienced drought, and excess, and mistreatment, and loss-- bring those places back to life. Teach them to Overcome. And while you're at it...maybe do that for me too? K, thanks. .
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#olderchildadoption #themisadventuresofaterriblegardener #RADparenting


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