I’ve had a challenging time with some people I hired and instead of getting super clear and honest with myself and spending the time committing to new systems...I made excuses. I'll say to myself, 'Oh, it’s short-term, I’ll suck it up. Or it’ll be better in the future.' Then after enough things stack, I’d flip flop and tell some of the experiences to dear friends and would hear, “that’s so crazy, you’re so right.” I’d feel validated and get back to work. But both strategies here are equally unproductive and get me further from my open, intuitive, creative, masterful, compassionate and loving self. That's who we want to, and can, show up as in all contexts of our life. That doesn't mean we will 100% of the time, but the faster we have an awareness when we're disconnected--the faster we can get back on path and feel much more fulfilled.
Whether you have a current challenge going on in your work, finances, relationships, health or personal growth I find these to be great reminders for connecting to a more authentic, effective and enjoyable experience.
Here’s what works:
1. See the truth as it is. Don't make a situation or you or the other right or wrong. Much of our authenticity and grace comes from seeing both sides without judgment. Knowing we all make mistakes, it's helpful to own, accept and communicate when we're wrong with an intention to do better next time. See the truth of where both sides had the best of intentions to meet their needs.
2. Don’t settle. Have the courage to make it right and set a standard of what you really want. Meditation and quiet time can be helpful to get present and get connected to your heart so your head's not rationalizing and running the show.
3. Listen. Have conversations. Be honest and humble. Be curious and have a desire to grow.
4. Get clear on your ideal scenarios and then communicate them. See if you can create a win-win and if the work/relationship is actually aligned with their needs and goals as well (aside from the paycheck/connection...). Nothing else will feel like you’re really building a quality team.
5. Create a plan to course correct. This will involve new systems or agreements. Happy Monday!