Rant alert! ⚠️ Rant alert! ⚠️ So help me, I try not to rant, especially about other moms because we are all just trying to do our best out here in the jungle of raising tiny soul sucking humans but... Can we PLEASE all make a pact as STRANGERS and MOTHERS to one another in social settings with our children to stop overriding our parenting decisions?? Let me set the scene: we go to story time at the library today. My 3 and almost 2 year old. 3 year old has a pretty good grasp of asking before taking, but the youngest? Forget it. We are working on his impulsivity and just taking things that look appealing to him. And damn it, if he isn’t just the cutest, sweetest thing, so it sucks to correct him, but it has to be done.
So he walks up to this chair, next to a mother and her child of about the same age and proceeds to help himself to her stack of books. I stop him. I correct him. He cries. He goes for the next one. I stop him. Correct him. He cries. Lather, rinse, repeat until every last book has been thrown to the floor and he’s in full meltdown mode. With every book he picked up and every correction I made, this mother (bless her kind heart) touched my arm, sensing my frustration, telling me “it’s really okay”. And as much as I know this is coming from a good and kind place, can you PLEASE let me have this teachable moment with my child? Now his messages are mixed and I’m the bad guy going up against the good guy, AKA the nice lady who will give him whatever his heart desires. (All the books, in this case)
I understand that in the grand scheme of it all, it’s a library, and there are books as far as the eye can see so how can he possibly know which ones are off limits?! I get it!
But, as moms, can we help prevent each other from taking 2 steps back when we’re making progress with our little, impressionable ones?
I love you for your kindness and willingness to indulge my sweet child.
But I still have a job to do and letting these little things slide will make the bigger things harder down the line.