I’ve had to do some major forgiveness work, it took time (longer than I expected, I really wanted to hold onto those resentments), some tears (more than I expected, and I’m not a big crier) and was liberating (man, who knew it would be so freeing and releasing to forgive someone else—-without even telling them!) ⠀
Forgiveness is a wonderful healing tool, especially when you let go of resentments and fresh wounds. It often helps us more than it helps those we forgive. Forgiving does not mean forgetting. You can forgive someone, but not allow them repeat hurtful behavior. You can forgive someone, recognizing they are stuck in a dark place, maybe in need of some healing themselves. You can forgive even when they are not sorry, that’s on them, not you.⠀
Forgiveness is liberating. It is an act; not a feeling … just as you are not your mistakes. You are a whole person who loves and evolves and grows. So, among all the other hurts and humiliations and mistakes you are forgiving, be sure to forgive yourself too. It’s work the time and tears.