Life after losing someone to suicide
Before I start, I want to say I am deeply sorry for your loss. Weather it was a friend, family member or co worker, I am so sorry for what you've been through.
How do you cope? How do you deal with losing someone to suicide when you have your own mental health problems?
First of all: talk. Talk to your friends, family or doctors about what happened and what you're going through. Communication is the key, especially with such a heavy topic like this.
Next is self care. Keep taking care of yourself. Eat properly, sleep enough, take care of your personal hygiene. Take some time for yourself, more than you usually would. Get on the couch with a nice book and a hot cup of tea if you like that. Do whatever you like, or used to like before your loss.
Write. Write it all down. Maybe start a new diary where you can dump all your thoughts, questions, rambles and feelings in. Letting in out in a healthy way. It would be great if you could carry it around with you, so when you're struggling again you can write something again.
Don't rush your grieving process. Everyone's process is different and maybe you need more time than others. That's okay.
Do what feels right for you. If you want to make a nice corner in your house with pictures and candles: go for it. If you don't feel like it: don't do it. If you want to spend more time with friends because you need the company, then call them.
Losing someone to suicide is a horrible and devastating experience. But you will get through it. One day at a time. Keep taking care of yourself, and don't hesitate to reach of for help if you need it.
Your pain is just as valid as the pain of the person who comitted suicide. Never forget that.