* Playgroups *
Oh playgroups the tears, tantrums, sweating, the tutting. Playgroups are amazing for your little one to socialise & develop (I feel all parents are told this) I feel what parents aren’t told that when you take them you feel “exposed” that the first time you’ll take them you’ll sweat & panic so much you fumble about. Now this may not be the case with everyone - Rowan in the first picture was a undiagnosed CMPA & Reflux, he was in pain and was very unhappy he’d cry persistently for the playgroup, I’d flap, sweat, get red & id panic. I’d eventually dread taking him & id cry in the car before & afterwards but continued to take him cos it’s “great for the baby”
The groups wasn’t great for mama - the tuts, eye rolls, the panic, the 45mins of constant rocking an hysterical baba oh the anxiety that followed 😩
As time went on I gave less fucks what other people thought & eventually I stopped going - the 45mins gave me anxiety & over thinking for the rest of the day and it wasn’t worth it.
If I was to go back now I’d still not give a fuck, I’d take my time with him if he was upset and people could eyeroll & tut and I’d look straight at them because I’m doing my best for my son, im not doing their best or im not doing what they would do with their babies because he’s mine.
Now I’m back at work we rarely have chance to go to playgroups & does it affect his development ? Nope - we go swimming, go to parks, practise big boy walking, play with pots & pans, with bubbles, see family & friends, play with lights and he’s developing extremely well.
What I’m saying mamas is you don’t need validation of being a great mum by the amount of playgroups you take them to. Your not a bad mum by not taking them, you can meet their needs anywhere & as long as your doing that who cares where ?! If your a mama having anxiety about going to a group or panicking throughout, your not the only one & in that group I doubt you’ll be the only one who’s anxious. Take your time, breathe & do the best for you & your baba & 💕💖 Happy Sunday!! ☀️
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