Last week I went to a women’s monthly meet up where we discuss a predetermined topic, this month’s being self limiting beliefs.
I’ve had my share in my life but I would say one that has been subtly persistent is this idea that I feel like I’m good at a lot of things, but not great at one. This may not even seem limiting to you, but there are times where it has kept me from sharing what I know or an experience I’ve had in fear that it will not add value not coming from an “expert”. Or I will feel the need to not give myself credit for being good at something because it’s easy to just be good, and credit should be held for great or extraordinary. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But in identifying and overriding this self limiting belief, I’ve learned through conversation and changing my perspective to believe that this can instead be my strength. I can instead choose to like that I am open to trying new things without needing to be great. It makes me proud because at least I’m going for it without needing to know that it will be easy or that I’ll be the best at it instead of standing still. We will always be our own toughest critic; of course it’s easier to believe that we are average because average is easy to keep safe, easy to keep guarded from judgement. But we will never be our best gauge of the value we add, because who we are and what we are good at is just a part of us and we are not on the receiving end of what we offer. And the relativity of good and great is different for every single person, and if so, what bar are we afraid to fall short from? Usually just our own.
Maybe you can relate to this? If so, change your rhetoric that what you do and what you have to offer is great because it is. I’m talking down to the very smallest way you’ve ever withheld yourself, it’s good enough and the world is starving for it.