I Remember When...
I felt what was “right” and more “effective” ( To have things turn out how I wanted them to ) was to not look within myself but tell someone else what would be best for them, their healing, and their life.
As time went on I started to feel alone, empty, and my strategy was not working let me tell you 😂
No matter how bad I wanted change for someone, how often I spoke to them and spent time with them, I realized two things:
1. It wasn’t my place to want something for someone who simply may not be ready and by showing up as I was, I was robbing them of their own journey and growth. Everyone goes and grows in their own time and when they are ready.
2. By attempting to fix, save, and change someone I ultimately forgot about myself and realized I wasn’t even a great example of what loving yourself and taking care of yourself looks like.
Listen, we want the best for our loved ones don’t we? 10000% and multiplied 10000 times over. However, we must understand that if we desire people to SEE what self love, self care, health, happiness, and all of the above look like... control & manipulation will never allow that person the space to grow, and if anything they may rebel.
Take care of yourself, love yourself, and be the example. It still doesn’t mean things will turn in your favor but knowing that we cannot save anyone but our own selves, the greatest thing we CAN accomplish is loving ourselves, investing in ourselves, for them to see what that looks like versus hear what WE believe is best for them! Tag a loved one in the comments. ❤️