“If peace comes from seeing the whole, then misery stems from loss of perspective.” -Mark Nepo
Ive come to realize that my happiness stems very little with how much I can do but rather how much I can notice. My most irritating and sad moments are generally when my perspective gets zapped, reducing my entire reality to something in front of me. This is not inherently a bad thing; it allows us to focus and shift to problem-solving gear. However, when it becomes a chronic reality, we begin aimlessly searching outside of ourselves for answers.
I used to feel rather disillusioned with living in Irvine. I thought it was too neat, too quiet, too fake, too crowded. I would look for peace in travels around the world and away from Orange County. At the time, it worked, for traveling has a beautiful temporary way of offering us fresh perspective. But if we stay in any one place long enough, that, too, becomes not enough. What I realized eventually is that MY life was too neat, too quiet, too fake, too crowded... and living in Irvine simply reflected that back at me, which I hated. As I let loose, let go of some structure, practiced honesty with myself and others, I have found that I don’t need to search elsewhere for balance in my life (as much). Now I crave and appreciate structure and stability MORE!
When you feel yourself spiraling into the minutia of a particular situation, practice the art of noticing and getting a birds-eye view. Read a license plate or bumper sticker. Notice people’s shoes. Feel the texture of the ground, your skin, or your clothes. Take in as much detail as you can. This will help you stay grounded and connected to seeing the whole.
—- I am planning on doing a social media detox starting tomorrow for 5 days and seeing what it does for me. I’d like to do 10 (and maybe I will), but I think I can stick to 5. Who is with me? I’d like to free up more time to focus on reading, being with myself and family, and detach from this world in my phone that takes so much focus away from the real world around me.
If you need me, send me a text or an email... and BONUS POINTS for a real phone call! I love you. XO -N
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