“Show them their possibilities, but never choose their path for them. They must advance on their own, find their own way, make their own mistakes, conquer their fears and hatreds, and create their own history.”
Even with his great powers, Superman will only show us the way and not take it for us. I think you can easily translate that to the way we raise our children. Show them good values, but let them make their own mind about who they truly want to be.