A healthy relationship is feeling safe to express emotions, expectations, and opinions. Even if they are drastically different than my partner’s.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Also known as being in a relationship with a ‘safe partner.’ This one is hard for me to share, hard for me to process. Because it hits me like a punch in the stomach. How often am I a safe person to be around? Too often I get so emotionally charged that I experience so much guilt later in my response, because I so long to be a ‘safe person,’ and am committed to making sure I keep my relationships healthy.
You know why? Without safety, there is no real relationship and there is no opportunity for growth. Because a real relationship is vulnerability and no one can be vulnerable without first feeling safe, without knowing they will be fully heard and not attacked. That their sentiments will be delivered to a person who will be committed to “hold space.” Sadly, this is a rarity in society today. However, I want to be different. Because I want my closest and dearest relationships to not only grow but to flourish. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🙋🏻♀️Are you a safe person? Also, on the flipside, do you feel safe to express your differing emotions, expectations, and opinions to your partner (or friend, family member, etc.)?