The concept of “time-management” is a trap. Unless you connect to a sense of purpose in life, unless you feel a burning passion for the things you do, attempting to manage your schedule is just playing someone else’s Tetris game. In a lot of self-help circles, people talk about taking 100% responsibility for their relationships, and in the same way, you have to take 100% responsibility for your relationship to time. If your time keeps vanishing, or if it’s parceled into chunks so small you never have a moment to pause, you have to look at that fact and say, “Okay, I did that.” Taking responsibility for your relationship to time isn’t about beating yourself up. Obviously, if you knew how that relationship was going to unfold, you would have done things differently — but now you know, and it’s not too late to change. The first step in creating a more conscious relationship to time is recognizing that time is elastic and proportional to alignment. In other words, as you start actually doing the things you’ve been putting off and seeing them as expressions of your deeper values, you discover that there is always more time. Whether you are 85 years old and writing your first novel or a younger person beginning a career, the secret ingredient in making time for what you love is always joy. The more you enjoy what you are doing, the more you will find pockets of time in which to do it, and the more creative ideas and skills will “cook” within you throughout the day, even when you aren’t working on them. There is so much cooperation within you, so many hidden resources you cannot see as long as you are focused on the thought, “I never have time.” Sometimes, you have to take a step back from the thing you’re having trouble finding time to do and remember what it was you once loved about doing it. It is that love, not any app or routine or time away from your day job, that will see you through. Wallace Stevens wrote some of the greatest American poetry of the twentieth century on scraps of paper while riding a train to his insurance-sales job. Remember that. You have enough time.
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