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The more I learn about my RADical, the more I see how the anxiety is manifesting itself in her little body. Many days she expressed how she "doesn't feel good." She may have bags under her eyes, have a headache, a tummy ache, some sniffles, and sometimes even a fever. I have always been curious about this and now it makes much more sense.
On one hand, I wish I could afford to let her stay home and rest when she's like this, but on the other hand I don't want to teach her that you give in to anxiety every time. Eventually we will find the appropriate balance.

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As a Pisces, I can say this is true. At this very moment I am trying to regain myself in the midst of my child pestering me, attempting to push me over the edge into anger. I have come very far in how I handle my anger in the moment, I am more controlled, where I used to be reactive and self destructive. However, I still can only take so much pushing before my instincts take over me and I return back to that old habit.
I don't understand why she would rather try to enrage me than just give me my space for 5 minutes. How many times do I have to explain to her that when I take time to calm down alone, that I will be back right after, and then we can talk? I cannot address her anxieties when I'm angry, I am taking alone time so I can be better for her, but it seems she would rather be near me even though I am seething at her. This is RAD logic 😖

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Personal Update: I do not find this book helpful but harmful. I say this because it has parts where they blantantly say that certain scientific facts are not true. To me that does not help people but can cause confusion to an already confusing diagnosis. I strongly believe God provided us with science so we can learn about and enjoy His creation. To say that it isn't real is invalidating many parent's experiences with RAD children.
Don't get me wrong, I go to the Bible for a lot of answers when I am lost, but God did not create these disorders, they were not a part of his creation. These are issues that came as a result of sin and in a lot of ways, the best way to understand them is through human science.
We trust that God will help us through, that he understands the pain we are in, and is behind and before us on our journey.

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Has anyone else read this book? I just started it and I was hoping someone could tell me if it has been helpful for you RADical kids. If you haven't read it and you are looking for more info, then you can maybe add it to your reading list 📚 Any input is appreciated!

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It is little notes like this from her that help me remember that she doesn't mean to be so difficult. She doesn't mean to be hurtful, defiant, or aggressive. These notes are reminders that deep down she knows I love her. They remind me that she doesn't understand why she behaves or speaks in ways that she knows are unkind. In these times moments, this is where my heart can momentarily find a home with her. Although the time it spends there is fleeting, few and far between, it helps to know that sometimes it is welcome.
Not to mention, even if she is wary of us, she loves God and that is the least I can hope for.
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How do you start your day? I’m the only one up and it’s so peaceful. I start each day with a little lemon water, a lot of Jesus, and my essential Momma oils to survive this crazy thing we call, motherhood. I apply Joy to my neck and wear it like a perfume, stress away to my wrists and sometimes under my nose, and endoflex vitality to my thyroid. I also take my B vitamins, & D3. Moms you have to take care our yourself because you can’t pour from an empty cup! 😉 #morningroutine #traumamom #traumamama #radishkids #traumamommas #traumamomma #reactiveattachmentdisorder #oilymomma #oilymama #naturalliving #readyourbible


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What’s for lunch! We’re having taco soup! It smells amazing! I have to make two pots of it due to a dairy allergy. #tacosoup #dairyfreetacosoup #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamomma #traumamom #paleomom #ketodiet #essentialoils #oilymomma


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Nothing like a Friday get together with friends. Why are my eyes bugged out 🤷🏻‍♀️😂#ihavefrands Brandi we missed you! #radmom #traumamomma #traumamom


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This is determination.
I could have made excuses today. I could have thrown myself a pity party about how awful my day was. I could have done a lot of things differently today...but they wouldn't have brought me to this moment.
You see...my car wouldn't start this morning 😢. By car I mean suv. I had to wake my husband up at 0500 😴 to help me get it out of the driveway and into the street so my step daughter could take the other car to school. I then had to wake my brother in law to take me to work. He then spent his day off helping us get our SUV fixed so I would have wheels again! 🙌🏻🚙 I figured...the day can't get any worse and I still have a smile on my face. Well by then end of my 13 hour shift we had a situation which escalated and got tense 👮‍♂️✂️Thankfully it was taken care of and everyone was safe.
So you think at this point this day couldn't throw anything else my way 🤷🏻‍♀️. Well it did...my precious, adorable child turned into a gremlin who had gotten wet and been fed 😂😂 But ya know what...? NONE of that got me down and NONE of it got in my way.
You literally have control of every action and REaction you make!
#determination #nurselife #traumanurse #fitmom #nursemom #traumamom #nottodaysatan #overcomeyourobstacles #mindovermatter


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Got the Garmin for Mother’s Day. It monitors my stress levels (even overnight if you don’t mind wearing it). I guess I’m not surprised by the levels in the day, being a RAD mom and all. But I am surprised by the lack of deep sleep at night! Basically, at night, I’m at “normal persons” levels during the day. 😕if you notice the spikes, that’s just the daily dealings with my RAD kid.. the higher ones are my response to her biting herself🤦‍♀️😱😥. Oh my.... so tired. I’m kinda laughing at myself here seeing how terrible it is. But striking it out because there’s nothing currently I can do to help myself (or for her) were kinda at a standstill. I need something more.. I just don’t know what that is yet. #traumamom #supportadoptivefamilies #adoptionstory #adoption #adoptivemom #adoptivemompodcast #adoptionnow #adopt #olderchildadoption #helpmelord #respite #ineedrespite #adoptspecialneeds #reactiveattachmentdisorder #attachmentdisorder #attachmentparenting #traumamomma #traumamommas #adoptionrocks #adoptionishard #hopetoadopt #adoptionpodcast #adoptiontrauma #supportadoption #showhope #connectedparenting #empoweredtoconnect #internationaladoption #adoptionislove


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Amen and amen source: @alexfittin go follow her 💫 #traumamom #adoptionstory #supportadoptivefamilies #adoption #adopt


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Life as a mother is NOT all it’s cracked up to be. I wish someone had told me before I became a mom how hard it can be.
Sure you love those snot nosed, randomly bloody murder screaming, crying over a sock on the wrong way, hungry all the time little goblins....errrr adorable babies 😉but being a MOM is HARD WORK.

You don’t always SEE that it took a power struggle, pleading and a forced you WILL take this picture! Or the camera on burst mode in hopes of catching one.
You don’t see the days like today where my daughter had a T-total MELTDOWN, on her field trip.
Like WHY GOD?!? Do you have to do this when more the HALF of your classes Moms (grandmas and dad) are here?! You don’t see the conscious decision to not give a crap what every other grown up may or may not think of your parenting as you try and bring your child from a level 10007 hulk rage, emotional meltdown to her normal test the limits generally happy self.
It took making a decision to put my frustration and embarrassment away and focus SOLELY on her. Which meant pinning her down against my body as she flung herself everywhere, because of I didn’t she’d 1: hurt herself and others and 2: escape and I’d have to chase her.
It meant accepting, putting my mommy “I can handle my own kid” bs pride away and being okay as the teacher tried to help console her.
I had to take her in the bus, and not care about what the bus driver might be thinking. As I went through EVERY technique I’ve learned in our therapies. And finally it was squeezing her as close as possible with deep pressure massage on her stomach side and back and saying in a low and gentle voice, “Vanna you are safe. I love you. You are safe. I love you. You are safe and loved.” Together we brought the hulk back down to my daughter.
so yes, being a mommy is HARD. But today I rejoice in the victory of not losing my sh*t, not being embarrassed, and being able to console my daughter and turn her from a raging hulk to a giggling 4 year old.
Ps. This is why I workout 🤫😅
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#babyhulk #toddlertantrum #behavioraltherapy #traumamom #momchronicals #introvertmom #introvert #infpt #raisingawildchild #freespiritchild #capricornandgemini #adhdmom


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Shew....it’s been a rough day for one of my kiddos. Lots of prayers needed so this particular child can let it all go and get on with a better life. #traumahurtsdevelopingbrains #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamom #healinghearts


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Hold your babies now matter how big. #traumamom #traumamomma #traumamoment


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It’s the season for trauma to amp up and ruin the season. It’s like this every year and it’s soooooo hard. #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamom #traumamomma #traumamoment


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The holidays are hard. Lots of prayers today because I have no words. #traumamom #reactiveattachmentdisorder


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John 13- Jesus washes the disciple’s feet even though he was about to die, even though one of them was about to betray him. Do we love our enemies or those that hate us? Would we wash their feet? John 13:4 says that we should serve each other because he served us. I challenge you today to wash the feet of those who hate you. #traumamom #traumamomma #reactiveattachmentdisorder #itsnotaboutyou #itsnotaboutme #itsallforhim #siblinglovedare


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I’m ready, God! My battle armor is on! Let’s go! #hereiamlord #sendme #traumamomma #traumamom #reactiveattachmentdisorder


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It’s a soup in the floor kinda day! Spent all afternoon making chicken n dumplings only to have them bust out of fridge into the floor! #itsbedtimenow #traumamomma #traumamom #reactiveattachmentdisorder


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We’ve had an amazing day with church and friends and then a HUGE blowup! #godgivemestrength #godgivemepatience #godgivemewisdom #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamomma #traumamom


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It's Weston's 11th birthday and it's been one of the worst days we've had in months. Not looking for sympathy but requesting that we all join together and pray! Please just lift us up in prayer and please pray for my trauma kiddo. #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamoment #traumamomma #traumamom #trauma


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Spent the morning at therapy, fighting for someone who doesn't want to be fought for. That's hard. After all that fighting.....doughnuts. #thisisus #wearefamily #weareamess #mymess #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamoment #traumamomma #traumamom


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Trauma sucks! Yes it does...so much! I apologize to my friends. I'm a horrible friend who rarely answers the phone. And I know that doesn't make sense but I just don't have the energy when there's so much trauma destruction around me. It's been a rough few days. Pray for us and pray for my one child who just cannot put the trauma behind them. #reactiveattachmentdisorder #traumamom


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Trauma moms I'm calling out for some encouragement or advice, or maybe I need a slap, I don't know. I'm beyond exhausted. We have therapies in place, read the books, and tried all the techniques we can find and we are burned out. How do you do it? I'm so weary, every child has a huge behavior going on, even the 11 month old. I like to pretend we are fine, by I'm really NOT fine at all. I know there a few of you out there with experience and wisdom and dear goodness I need it! #traumamom #fostermom #adoptivemom #fosterfamily


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🎁❤ B E S T G I F T ❤🎁
Drawings like these make the hard days of parenting much better! And who doesn't love Winnie-the-Pooh? .
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#betterbeautywithjill #momlife #boymom #adoption #traumamom #bestgiftever #helovesme #lovelookslikesomething


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Can I get an, Amen? Whew it's been a rough few weeks of #parenting around here! Thank God, for #dailygrace and #mercy or I would never make it. 😢😨😩😯😕😨😢 #amiright #faithlivedout #faithoverfear #Hiswillbedonenotmine #parenthood #momlife #momprobs #helptheydontstoptalking #traumamom #adoption #godlyparenting #faith


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Ha ha ha! Truth. 🙈🙉🙊😉
It's #talktuesdaywithjill on my #youtube channel 📺 be sure to check out what God is speaking to me about #motherhood #triggers #parenting and how to #surrender it all to Him. #adoption #momofworldchangers #boymom #girlmom #catholic #bigfamily #traumamom #sharejesus #meditation #jesuscalling


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20 degrees has me thinking about #running on the #beach Did you subscribe to my #youtube 📺 channel yet? ( #linkinprofile ) #stylebyjill #fashion #womensfashion #tulle #tulleskirt #chambray 📷 @lundyphoto


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