Life as a mother is NOT all it’s cracked up to be. I wish someone had told me before I became a mom how hard it can be.
Sure you love those snot nosed, randomly bloody murder screaming, crying over a sock on the wrong way, hungry all the time little goblins....errrr adorable babies 😉but being a MOM is HARD WORK.
You don’t always SEE that it took a power struggle, pleading and a forced you WILL take this picture! Or the camera on burst mode in hopes of catching one.
You don’t see the days like today where my daughter had a T-total MELTDOWN, on her field trip.
Like WHY GOD?!? Do you have to do this when more the HALF of your classes Moms (grandmas and dad) are here?! You don’t see the conscious decision to not give a crap what every other grown up may or may not think of your parenting as you try and bring your child from a level 10007 hulk rage, emotional meltdown to her normal test the limits generally happy self.
It took making a decision to put my frustration and embarrassment away and focus SOLELY on her. Which meant pinning her down against my body as she flung herself everywhere, because of I didn’t she’d 1: hurt herself and others and 2: escape and I’d have to chase her.
It meant accepting, putting my mommy “I can handle my own kid” bs pride away and being okay as the teacher tried to help console her.
I had to take her in the bus, and not care about what the bus driver might be thinking. As I went through EVERY technique I’ve learned in our therapies. And finally it was squeezing her as close as possible with deep pressure massage on her stomach side and back and saying in a low and gentle voice, “Vanna you are safe. I love you. You are safe. I love you. You are safe and loved.” Together we brought the hulk back down to my daughter.
so yes, being a mommy is HARD. But today I rejoice in the victory of not losing my sh*t, not being embarrassed, and being able to console my daughter and turn her from a raging hulk to a giggling 4 year old.
Ps. This is why I workout 🤫😅
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