I love this picture of my maternal grandmother, who we called “Nano”. For one, she has a spider plant here practically sitting on her head. I keep spider plants in my house because she always had them and I loved watching her talk to them so lovingly as she watered them. She’s looking away from the camera here. And I remember her gaze often being off and away from who she was talking to as if in deep pondering, much like my own style of communication.
She practically raised me as a small child, grooming my character strengths, while my teen mom made her way in school and work. She was a humble human, tough as nails, sharp as a tack, quirky, and a self made SoCal real estate mogul by the age of 50. She never attended college, was strongly opinionated, a survivor of child abuse and spoke with a lively, but gentile, Southern drawl. She was conventional in many ways, loved make up, high heels, Jesus, was polite, yet direct. We had some good drag out arguments as I got older about colonialism, feminism, racism and queer rights.
She has been gone over a decade now. As the years go by, I am beginning to understand the significance of her complexities and how unique she really was for her time in other aspects. For when it came to dedicating herself to relationships, family and love, I can now really appreciate how she stretched, opened and crossed the cultural boundaries of typical society in exchange for something greater and more important- understanding the multitudes contained by the exceptional humans in her life and her showing of compassion for them. 🧜🏽♀️
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