You’ve found the CV that ticks the boxes! The family seem ok... for now! It’s smiles all round or is it? Things are all pleasant, discussions of dates are in full swing maybe a little engagement or a nikkah party to prepare for, just to ‘seal the deal’. There’s so much to take in and to do but in such little time. How is it that in most weddings it becomes ‘my big fat Asian wedding’? How does the wedding day become a day to ‘show others’? •
What bugs me is that every step needs some sort of approval by the board room! This isn’t Dragon’s Den. I am not asking people to invest a percentage in my wedding for their own gain! Somehow what the bride wears or how much gold she wears is now a day where the ‘khandaan’ (family members) of the couple need to come and give their approval. Sorry but I feel it’s our ladies special day we should wear what we feel comfortable in. This might not be everyone’s experience. As a larger girl, I do not want to be squeezed into a ‘HOT PINK’ lengha looking like some candy floss! Or even for my beautiful darker skin toned sisters, I despise it when someone says ‘you sure you will suit that colour? Sorry for the rant but the preparations of weddings have become what feels like everyone is just thinking “how can we top a wedding we went to?” I get it, we all want a special and beautiful day. But what use is all that showy stuff when the marriage may starts on rocky roads as a result?
Little heads up for the preparations ladies:
1) Keep calm and plan effectively! Have a notebook or spreadsheets like a friend of mine did, list down things in categories to help you organise your events.
2) It takes two to tango! So please try and take his views on board too and find a balance, always try come to a compromise (last thing you want is a groom-Zilla taking over your bride-zilla moments)
3) Don’t be afraid to say how you feel on things such as outfits or how you want things. Weddings are such stressful times things can come across or even understood negatively but just remember to brush it off as everyone is tensed up.
What’s your experiences? Share your tips below!