About personal space and lack thereof. I was standing in a line at my bank when an uncle person stood behind me. It was too close for comfort, let's just say that. His own wife, wrapped in a chaddor had been carefully placed on a seat between 2 women. I'm not saying the man was malicious but he kept inching closer, to the extent that I side stepped. Thankfully the teller gave me my checkbook, took my sign, despite me not being in line. She probably saw what had happened.
I always avoid getting such documentation, qanooni karwayi stuff done on my own. But my previous 2 checkbooks had not been picked up and were shredded so this was it. People do argue that women should move around with mehram for protection. Kahan se laoon? 2 of them (hubby, f in law) were at work at the other end of the city. The other 5 (baba, bro, 3 uncles) are in Toronto. Baat "maadran" honay ki nahi, majboori ki bhi hoti hai.
The truth is, if uncle had rubbed his body against me and I had said "bastard" even then half the people would have something negative to say about me. This is not about women or clothes or professions. Yes, women also throw themselves at men, yes, they should guard themselves too, yes jaisa des waisa bhais, yes there can be wrongful accusations. I get it.
But that's the thing, harassment is not just sexual anymore, yeh aik habit hai, its a waba (disease) affecting little Angels as young as 3 years old to middle aged women. In an effort for women to prove themselves right, people have assumed they are all wrong until proven otherwise. This has made most people bold and deeda dalair.
When a society focuses more on a victim proving than correcting why harrassers are doing this in the first place you reach a horrible conclusion.
THEY THINK THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT.
When men don't pay attention to your personal space it's because they think they can. Our failure to illicit a punishment or rule of law has strengthened all perpetrators. Jab aik aadmi ka chitrol ho theek se baki sab bhi seedjay rehtay hain. Liken jab baat iss baat se agay hee na jaye keh kya pehna tha, kyun gayi thi, tou hum agay kaisay barhain ge?