What do you think: our life depends more on the events that happen or on what we do after they happen? .
Of course, some events can drastically affect our lives. I have experienced the event that completely changed the course of my life. I’m sure you also have associated with people who strongly impacted your life and sure, we could say that they are to blame for our current circumstances. But let’s look at it from a different angle.
In order to have an easier way to explain my point, I will use my own life as an example.
When, after the accident, the first 3 years I lived stuck at home with no opportunity to continue a full, active lifestyle, all the blame was pointed toward the accident. My life was drastically changed due to the car accident.
And if I had continued my life that way, no one would be saying anything bad about me, but they would have a simple explanation: “It’s the accident’s fault; it was because of that tragic event she lost almost half of her body and is forced to live this way.” There would be a short statement about my life, that “the car accident broke Inga’s destiny.”
Thank God, today I am in a different position in life. I lead an active, meaningful and fulfilling life in a beautiful part of the world in spite of the consequences of the crash. The same event – car accident – but with an entirely different outcome. But now, nobody is saying that I live such a beautiful life due to the tragic event. In this case, when there is a discussion about my current living conditions, all the focus is directed at me, and it is said that it’s all because of my efforts and hard work. And I get congratulations for attaining such a transformation after the crash.
But if I would not have taken the initiative and have not made many changes in my life, I would have continued living as I did the first 3 years. Who would be to blame for that?
Can you see that fine line? What determined the course of my life – the event or what I did after that event?
You are the author of your life story. It’s not what happens to you or what people do to you that has the power to determine your future. They only have power if you let them.