345/365 - ADVICE
It’s been a couple weeks now that I’ve promised myself that I would no longer give advice to people who didn’t ask for it. I know these posts can come off as giving advice but it’s the reader’s choice if they want to read what I have to share or not. But in person, it’s harder for someone to not listen mid conversation as I give my two cents.
I’ve talked a long time ago about the importance of listening. And it really goes back to that. So often someone will be sharing a story about their life and we automatically feel like that’s an indication they wanting our advice. So we start making it about us and our beliefs, meanwhile the person never asked, they just wanted to vent. And I’m usually pretty good with listening silently, but there are times with close people I care about where I catch myself giving unsolicited advice.
I’m someone who really appreciates having someone who just listens when I’m talking so I really want to make an effort in giving that to people 100% of the time. Only if I’m asked will I then share. Because at the end of the day, it’s not my life to live and what may be right for me may not be right for someone else. Also, it’s really an honour when people share their lives with me and I wouldn’t want to do anything to annoy them or prevent them from doing that because it’s not easy finding people to be vulnerable with.
Lastly, when I’m getting advice from someone I have to remind myself to ask these important questions. Is this person successful in the area I’m discussing? Are they living the life I want to be living? If they are, then I’ll consider taking their advice. If not, then I tend to not adopt what they’re saying. Advice is just advice. It’s not fact.