I see a lot of clients struggling with matters of the ego. Feelings of unworthiness and the constant comparison amongst others, high achievers that just can’t seem to achieve enough, or those that completely lack the self-confidence to try. All of these feelings are a false sense of ‘self’ and evolve from belief patterns and ingrained thought processes that often stem back years.
When we peel back these layers of false beliefs, we find many of them began during childhood.
Often these feelings of neglect come from their relationship with their Mother, or how they perceived their Mother to be at the time--absent, inattentive sometimes even abusive or dealing with their own insecurities.
It is not surprising given that as women (being the more intuitive and nurturing of the human species) that we turn to our Mothers during childhood for that reassurance that we are in fact enough. You may have been closer to your Father, who also plays an important role, but there is a strong biological and undeniable connection with Mother that will often determine our self-worth.
When Mother is unavailable or unable to provide this reassurance, the doubts creep in. When working with my clients on this matter, we often discover patterns of limiting beliefs and stories of feeling inadequate that go back through generations within the family. Mothers are often dealing with their own history of neglect, or lack of maternal understanding and this, subconsciously, has a continual knock-on effect within families.
Whilst coming to understand that your Mother was doing the best she could with the knowledge and awareness she had at the time, transcending these lower beliefs of the ego requires much work.
Whilst working with clients, we spend time breaking down these life time belief patterns of inadequacy and unworthiness. This not only breaks this cycle within the maternal family gene pool, but establishes a deeper more loving connection with ‘self’ that allows you to move forward in life, reaping and harvesting all that you deserve and set your intentions to.🙏