Often, this is what self-care looks like.
Often, most find it too difficult to do it. Too painful, too scary, etc etc etc.
What is too painful, too scary, and unacceptable for me is continuing to associate with people who make me sacrifice or compromise my self-respect, self-worth, my peace, my highest good.
People whose version of friendship, companionship, or association doesn't include encouraging and supporting my highest good, or even considering it at all.
People who add nothing positive to my life and just take up space that could be occupied in a healthier, more productive way.
People who are so wrapped up in their own bullshit that they only consider what they want from the people around them.
People who don't take responsibility for their mental and emotional health and end up leaking their unhealthy bullshit all over the people around them, whether they're aware of it or not.
I've always burnt bridges fairly easily. I probably get that from my mother. I still don't know if that's good or bad. I'd like to think it's a good thing, because undeserving people no longer get space in my life nor any more of my energy.
I am not a rehab for poorly-raised people. Empaths often attract broken people, and my current stretch of journey is focused on understanding that it is not my job to re-mother nor heal everyone that comes across my path, and learning to establish and enforce healthy boundaries for myself when said broken people try to cling to me.
If you're looking for a friend who just wants you to be happy, no matter what, I'm not your huckleberry, and you can keep moving.
If you're looking for a true friend who wants you to be HEALTHY, make healthy choices for your highest good, who will encourage you, keep you honest, call you out on your bullshit, keep pushing you to keep improving and keep evolving, who will jump out of bed at any hour to do whatever they can to help, *and you can and will do the same for me*, come at me.
It's why I'm almost always alone and have very few friends. 🖕🏻 I'd rather be alone than surrounded by and attached to stagnant, convoluted, manipulative, needy, clingy, and/or unhealthy energy.