Amber Hawken@amber_hawken

Wrote the #1 Best Seller The Unfu*kwithable Life
Mindfulness CBT/Speaker/Podcast/YouTube
Latest podcast What it really takes to love bravely👇🏽

http://www.amberhawken.com/dralexandrasolomonpodcast/

Keep it open. Keep it wild. If I needed this reminder today, that perhaps you do to. To me - it represents as a anchor for my mind when I feel wobbly in my self: uncertain, out of balance and a little off. This space isn’t. Wrong doing, this IS the wild. And we need to remember to embrace it, love it and trust it.
Don’t let the times of turbulence be suffering or the mind create stories about your unknowns, this is the wilderness that your soul seeks in order for you to grow.
So, don’t shut this goodness down, keep it wild. You need it 🤘🏼❤️


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When my ego gets all ancy; desperate for validation, impatient, greedy, selfish, power hungry or insecure; I remind it of my life philosophies. Silly ego. Happy Monday, loves. I’m off for a sunset on the beach and gym before I pass out with jet lag. 🤘🏼


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Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. - Kahlil Gibran The Prophet
I came home an aunt.
You’re so perfect, Jorja. #newborn #love #poetry #aunt #niece #happy #perfection #happiness #somuchlove #theprophet #kahilgibran #inspire


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Colombia, you were a freaking treat but I really must get home.
According to my camera roll, we ate a lot of food, did stuff and then drank a lot of coffee. Like - A lot. I was a solid tourist the last few weeks, completely fell in love with Medellin. Shout out to @danielbryn for making me laugh, generally at my own expense. Actually, always. Man can also take a photo. Will even risk my life for a shot (see approaching car above) 🙄 I’m constantly telling people - TRAVEL. It’s not the fantasy of over glorified perfect days like we generally daydream about. Travel is tough. It’s dangerous. It can get seriously lonely sometimes. It’s raw and it asks a lot of you. You have to our you big kid pants on take a lot of responsibility. You need to be alert but kind. Open but have boundaries. You see parts of yourself you didn’t know existed and you drop parts of yourself that were simply routine taking over. It strips life back, it strips you back to the core of what really matters. You get tired and lost and sometimes you even get robbed (or leave your wallet on top of an ATM) and it pushes every button you have and triggers a ton of fear. And that of course, is why you have to do it. 😏 I’m current en route to Chile to fly home tomorrow and am pumped to have some ozzie sand under my feet, get my skate board back and open an email or 799 that’s awaiting me. The next few months of work are pretty rad, I’m psyched to get back. Life is good. Ciao! 📸 @danielbryn


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If travel has reminded me of anything, its the kindness of human beings in their most raw, authentic forms. When people travel, they relax because the unconscious attachment to, "who I am" is mild on vacation, when comparatively we tend to defend our limited self protective persona when we are in our home environments. I believe kindness is the essence of our soul, collectively. And thats why I feel travelling give it out endlessly. Life becomes less about "Who I am" and more about, "hey we are doing the same thing, deep down we both got that pull", and so I becomes we. That's why travelling is one of the most enlightening experiences we can ever invest it. So - be fucking kind, empowering and supportive, it's who you are, anyways. Oh that and it heals the world. ❤️


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A few things. 1. It’s my second last night in Colombia 🙄😫 2. I LOVE Medellin (considering moving here - legit) 3. The best cold brew coffees live here and I’ll miss them until I return 4. I’m pumped to get home and launch Calm Mind Project to the World Wide Web next week and take it to schools around Oz this year. 5. @danielbryn is ridiculously patient as we spent three hours walking through the favellas of Comuna 13, making some epic graffiti videos for CMP content! “Calm Mind Project @calmmindproject is a program for schools that aims to revolutionise education systems by empowering students and teachers to cultivate emotional resilience and find purpose in life through evidence based mindfulness, movement and self awareness techniques and strategies.” So - super pumped for the first event in early May, with almost 100 teachers and a few hundred students! #colombia #calmmindproject


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Too much thinking is the seedling of all of our shame and self doubt. A sense of confidence, trust, worthiness and discipline is rooted in our ability to observe our mind, observe our emotions and not react to them; mindfully accept their existence without judgment or labelling. It's a conscious pause, a mindful moment to take in the stimulation of our senses, the filters of the mind and then take life from there. Its a non reactive, empowered and aware state. And its no more difficult than breathing.
Mindfulness is simply the focus of our attention on one thing, fully, without the bias of the mind driving our actions. So if Sally bitches about you in the office or Jack has a dig at your latest creative project, instead of your ego going into a fucking hissy fit, you observe the mental noise around what that means (nothing but the meaning we give it) and allows you to feel charged emotions (sadness, anger, jealously etc), allow them to be experienced (instead of lashing out, going into an internal fit of anxiety or promisiing yourself a bottle of wine that everything because you deserve it for putting up with Jerks like Jack and Sally) and dissolved. Most people’s mind automatically go into defense mode (that’s called the ego) and emotions get suppressed or even worse victim mentality kicks in and we marinate in toxic states such as self judgment, fear or blame.
So being able to pause, feel and let go means - you are in charge of your world. You conduct your mind and allow yourself to feel the uncomdotable stuff the survival instict wants to pull back from. This means you can check in with yourself each moment and make decisions from a clear space of authenticity instead of fear or rejection or the need for validation.
Its simple (no, not easy) and you can begin right now, in this moment. Start observing, take a breath, dont react.
Go within. Live from there 🙂


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The vitality of our life is equivalent to the number of moments we’re willing to wade through the cobwebs of resistance and fear and pull our attention and self to right here and now. Seven years of yoga and meditation practice hasn’t led to a less busy mind, just less attention to the contents pertaining to fear and judgment. The ability to allow the mind to be the mind and thoughts to be thoughts, nothing more or less than that. Attention anorexia to the present moment starves the soul. When you can bring your mind to meet your heart, fulfillment is the current of your life. We only feel alone, afraid, hopeless, anxiety and empty when you abandon the present, when we abandon ourselves. This energy leak of attention not only drains us, its a perfect opportunity for fear to feed the collective unconscious of “I am not enough”. Let the mind run wild and it will eradicate a sense of worth in minutes. Good news - sup to you. Bad news - you’ll be doing this mindfulness business for the rest of yourself life. Good news - it’s very fucking simple. Stop. Breathe. Come back. Meet yourself, and then begin again. When you jet I yourself. Don’t fret. Just take a moment I am here and so are you (self and soul combined = magik flow). Happy Tuesday 🤘🏼 _

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New podcast with @dr.alexandra.solomon , LINK IN BIO 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻 on what it really takes to love bravely! If you are a human, you will get so much out of this conversation. Warning: we go deep real quick! I’m attracting these BIG conversations about relationships, the masculine and feminine and love lately as it seems many of us are leaning in to love. Alexandra shares her own core wounds with such self compassion and vulnerability, it felt like having an intimate D & M with a friend. Check it out!


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All those things that feel like they’re blocking you from doing all the shit you really want to do - that’s actually the work that needs to be done. So the little irritations, the no’s when you were seeking a yes, the shit that doesn’t go to plan - that’s your task right now.

When things are feeling slow, like you’ve hit an energetic drain in life force or inspiration is sparse, you don’t need to speed up and grind some more, you’re learning patience.
When life hurts and dreams crumble, then it’s not about how to get away from the pain or work through your shame, it’s about learning to surrender to what is.

When you’re stuck in that space between where you are and where you want to be, like your world is at a speeding halt and you’re feeling suffocated in your old skin, you’re not meant to push through, you’re learning trust (in self). When you’re terrified of change and don’t want to let go of an idea or the past, don’t tighten your grip - you’re learning to let that shit go.
When you’re insecure and riddled with jealousy, don’t seek attention, you’re learning to deeply love and accept yourself and re write that old story of abandonment.
When fear leads to procrastination and doubt, don’t burry yourself further into easier time wasters abs other irrelevant tasks, you’re learning to push through the greatest destroyer of our dreams - resistance.
Remember - that which hinders your task - is the fucking task.
Take a closer look at what you’re avoiding or not seeing or feeling is, “stopping you”, that’s exactly where you’re meant to be looking right this moment. Learn to love this philosophy, it’s life, love. Happy Monday 📸 @danielbryn


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Believing in yourself all day every day? Nah, that’s boring, really. It's also impossible and a rather destructive belief that cultivates energies of anxiety and depression. Suffering breeds in our bodies when our mind is focused on impossible things such as being happy and positive, always.

I’d rather dig myself out of crippling self-doubt and fear now and again. That kind of work purifies our ego and allows us to reach a different space - a more real, balanced and peaceful space. One of compassion and mindfulness.
This kind of living teaches us patience and builds resilience. There’s no escaping our evolution. To pop up like a daisy we first have to poo up through the dirt and manure of our very normal human unconscious fears of worthlessness, first.
It’s a cycle. And if you surrender to it you’ll learn to flow with much more ease, even when it feels too hard. Chill.
Some days, I yo-yo between, “I run the world” and, “fuck this shit” 17 times before breakfast. It's rather grand.
You know - expanding my soul a little. “Life experience”, I think they call it.
Don’t stress if you get lonely, insecure or fall apart now and again.
You’re a human - remember? Der. It’s called character building 🙂 seriously though.
When you find yourself in that space, the one and only way to get out is to own that you’re there. Don’t try and run away or wish it away. Don’t pick up your phone or eat junk to ignore that bubbling energy of lack brewing in your chest and rising into your throat. Don’t even give up in frustration.
Just surrender. Know that a part of you, a lot more intelligent than your mind planned this. So just sit, listen, accept and learn. Every little thing is gonna be alright.

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When you’ve just climbed 659 steps and ice cream is LIFE. #icecreamfixeseverything #travel #foodporn #guatape #colombia #picoftheday


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