Jen Varley LMHC,CASAC,EMDR-3@astoriastherapist

I’m Jen a local psychotherapist and holisitic health crusader in QNS.I'm passionate about all things healing. Follow for inspiration and good vibes ✌🏻

http://jennifervarley.com/

Living in the concrete jungle is wonderful in so many ways but it also demands that we schedule in/prioritize reconnecting with nature. Reconnect when you can and do yourself a favor and put your phone on airplane mode too. There’s no better way then to ensure you aren’t distracting yourself and being fully present (IG will always be there..) #beach #latergram #beachmode #sundays #nature #eveninnyc #groundyourself #getoutside #seethelinewheretheskymeetstheseaitcallsme #moanaquotes😆


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There is a parallel to removing crappy foods from your diet and feeling better and working through/clearing negative emotions and feeling better (I recommend both!).Nothing supports an emotional detox of sorts like a dietary one. #foodforthought#thoughtsaboutfood #clearyourmind #emotionalhealth #toxicity #astoria #astoriastherapist #lic #courtsquare


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This weeks what’s on my bookshelf Wednesday ! 📚 In college I took an intro forensic psych class and this was part of our textbook list. I remember not being able to put this down and had a newfound appreciation for all of those “gut” feelings so often we ignore. Gavin DeBecker runs through case studies of people who have been victims of crimes/been attacked and retrospectively pinpoint the exact moment your body/system knew something was wrong and they chose to ignore it. This teaches us to trust ourselves and our instincts more. One time this awareness of the purpose of fear led me to locking the basement door in my apartment complex when I went down to get my laundry. Lo and behold someone was in fact following me and tried to force the door open but couldn’t because I had locked it on instinct. I highly recommend this and since it’s an oldie but a goodie I’m sure it’s VERY affordable on Amazon. If you are a victim of a crime or have been attacked this may be a bit triggering to read so be mindful. #giftoffear #gavindebecker #forensicpsychology #fear #survivalmode #fightorflight #instincts #trustyourgutinstinct


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Had an awesome experience with my new chiropractor today! Gotta love people who are integrative. I already have an acupuncturist but knowing I could get both from the same person is always a comfort. I know it can be hard to find quality people (hence my post and review) but I have no complaints. This guy is legit and explained everything. I didn’t have to wait and he took his time win✔️win✔️win✔️ #integrarivehealth #chiropracticadjustment #chiropractor #astoria #wellintegrativecare #keepitlocal #queens


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What’s on my bookshelf Wednesday!📚. I.love.this.book. Michele Rosenthal is a true wounded healer and is proof that healing is possible despite set backs along the way. This is a trauma memoir although not graphic to the point where if you have PTSD or think you do you need to think twice about reading. It highlights the mind body connection as well as delayed reactions to events in our lives. Her path to healing is interesting and it highlights how events can cause physical and emotional ailments. #readon #beforetheworldintruded #ptsd #trauma #healing #therapy #hypnosis #eatjngdisorder #medicaltrauma #woundedhealer #astoria #astoriastherapist #lic #courtsquare


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Warning ⚠️ Long Post ahead- This is my sour “that just hurt” face. I just left a rough physical therapy session that taught me a valuable lesson. Out of nowhere 3-4 days ago I started having intense pain in my tailbone without knowing why.
Given I’ve been working through some of my own emotional stuff lately I assumed this was a 1st chakra issue strictly energetic because nothing had changed in my routine physically. I spent the last two days trying to realign myself without relief feeling like a failure.
I’ve learned to take a step back and just breathe. This isn’t the first time I made an assumption about pain. Knots in my hip flexor felt like ovarian cysts in the past and there was a lot of worry about what that could be (something I could also blame on my chakras too,technically) but it was a totally new pain that reminded me of the old. This happens with out memories all the time just as our physical body.
This time it was determined that knots again that built over time was pulling at my tailbone causing what felt like nerve pain. It wasn’t energetic and it wasn’t random or sudden, it was slow and built up. It was a sign and a signal that I need to amp up my self care again with my muscles as I enter a new(er) phase of recovery with my physical body. We need not make assumptions about what things are or aren’t we need to consider all avenues because our systems (energetic, physical, emotional/nervous system) are connected but they don’t all operate on the same time table. This is why (for me) physical therapy, counseling, acupuncture and energetic work are all valuable.
One of my immediate thoughts was “I wonder how many people would just take some Tylenol and try to forget about this” when it’s so simple and Tylenol would do nothing to solve the problem. Some intense elbow work into my muscles, that hurt like hell don’t get me wrong, gave me relief today. Am I 💯 % nope but I need to give it some time. Use all your systems, be patient, and don’t make assumptions #physicalhealth #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #energetic #dontmakeassumptions #yourbodyhasmemoriestoo #stayopenminded #staycurious #astoria


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Trying something new which I’m calling what’s on my bookshelf Wednesday’s📚. I’m a big fan of making book recommendations when on a personal growth journey. Each week I’m going to pick a favorite and post it here. Today is a favorite of mine by Charlotte Kasl -If the Buddha Dated (You can tell by how worn out the book is itself). If you are someone who isn’t sure how to look for your needs in a partner, you fall into love super quickly and want to slow things down or just understand yourself in relationships better this is the book for you. Keep in mind this blends relationships and spirituality 📿 but I wouldn’t be deterred by it you can take what works and leave the rest if it doesn’t ✌🏻#whatsonmybookshelf #charlottekasl #ifthebuddahdated #selfhelpbooks #personalgrowth #astoria #astoriastherapist


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These came today and just in time as I’m starting to feel a little under the weather. Perhaps it’s these abrupt temperature changes.. Most of these benefit immune function but some also balance hormones which a lot of women struggle with. Hoping to feel recharged tomorrow thanks to some of natures gifts ✌🏻#findwhatworksforyou #chastetree #ioniczinc #esterc #b12 #lemonbalm #ashwagandha #astoria #astoriastherapist #lic #courtsquare #holistichealth


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My office for the day ⛱️📚
Chipping away at some bigger plans I have brewing in regards to codependency treatment. I’m hoping to run groups in the near future and a possible podcast too. Today is just research and refining my beliefs about healing- which believe it or not goes against some of Melody Beattie’s Work. She’s a rockstar but I also know that a strict 12 step model will turn people away and I ’m here to close the gap and offer a different perspective(while getting a tan) #longbeach #longisland #friyayvibes #workhardplayhard #questioneverything #codependent #codependency #healing #relationshipaddiction #astoria #astoriastherapist


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I’m a big fan of Dr. Brighten and her work with women to balance hormones (and linking that to mental health). Check out this article (link in bio) that includes other reasons you may be experience anxiety that include your physical health! My patients are asked about 1) hormone health 2) blood-work/last physical results 3) gut health/digestion issues and diet when talking about anxiety in my office. I’m not a doctor but our systems are connected and my job is to get you curious and to care about your overall health. You can’t expect to feel great mentally and not confront the physical ✌🏻#drjolenebrighten #anxiety #naturalremedieswork #physicalhealth #soundbodysoundmind #everythingsconnected #integratedtherapy #astoria #astoriastherapist #newyork


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It’s a coconut 🥥 vanilla black tea kinda afternoon ✌🏻 thanks to @communitealic #sessionfuel #sleepytuesday #obsessed


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Hey guys this ⬆️ is Nicole (who happens to be my bestie). She is being featured at Chelsea Market for the next two weeks! You should go visit and check her stuff out @nicole.rose.studio - she’s super talented. She has made a name for herself by breaking free from corporate life and developing her own business that is eco-friendly and empowers women. She trains refugees to help create beautiful textiles for the home.You can support this local BK based business by checking her out over the next two weeks! #empoweredwomenempowerwomen #lifeofservice #nicolerosestudio #chelseamarket #refugeestories


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