My hubby picks up the mails and leaves on top of clothes dryer. He glances the mails and leave until I go through. So if I don’t go through, they are just there on top of dryer. I don’t like clutter. I go through them and decide which one I keep or dump it. The most of our mails are useless junk mails. They go where they belong. Trash can.
My question will be that are we doing this to our own life too? Clutter is not just physical stuff. My hubby will leave those mails forever. And some of you guys will do that with your emotion, your bad behavior, your past, and even your own mails too.
Do you really want to file up your clutter on top of other clutter? If I don’t go through mails for one week, that’s so much to go through by Sunday, and this analysis goes to your clutter too. You gotta go through your clutter and throw away old habit, get rid of negative behaviors, let go of toxic relationship, and live clutter less life.
I hold a grudge and I practice to let it go on same day.
I want to live clutter less in the present bc I know I will have more clutter tomm. So why keep them ?
Think right now that what is your clutter?
Face your reality and it’s time to get rid of them!It might take longer if you got a lot. But it’s ok. It’s a start.
How did I build my #selfesteem and #self confidence?
You don’t know how mentally you are strong until the life challenges you.
My high school sorta messed up my head a big time.
Then how I gain back ?
First of all, you need to understand that you don’t born w high self esteem, self confidence, self love even self worth. We kinda adapt, learn, and grow based on our daily life.
Going through with breast cancer, I found out how strong minded person I was.
Being self conscious about my look, I challenged myself to get on the stage. I know it was only bikini competition but I did something that I would never thought about doing it. During these years, I had a mental breakdown bc i still didn’t feel good enough for myself. It was constant battle me and myself.
I found out that the 14 years young Jessica was controlling me. She kept saying that I wasn’t pretty enough, smart enough, fit enough and stupid.
Once I let her go and I really started to take care myself inside. The outside was taken care by old Jessica for while. I don’t talk to myself any negative way. I don’t tell myself that I can’t do it. I don’t compare my body with anybody. I actually like my body. I like my sassy personality. I like broken English with accent. As long as my members and my hubby understand me, then i am good.
So this is my story.
I hope that my story can help you in some way.
I would love to help young gals that going through self esteem. If you know anybody who needs, share this message. #fitbodybyjessica#fitness#healthcoach#selfesteem#selfesteemcoach#healthyfood#healhtylifestyle#healthyliving#godisgood#selfconfidence#healthy
“What happened to me during my high school?”
I was 15 years when I took this pic. I went VanNuys JR high for 9th and moved to Claremont.
I was still learning English than I was super timid and shy. Being type A, introvert personality, it was hard for me to mingle with kids.
I didn’t like my appearance.
I didn’t like my broken English w accent.
So I isolated myself from other kids. The library was my favorite place during lunch.
My self esteem literally went down during my history class at 10th. It was all talk and discussion. Me.. looking down and staring at the end of table for a whole year.
Teen age is so important to develop personality and characteristic. And I was fucked.
No friends, no invite for school dances, and no self love. And same time I started developing eating disorder and body image issue.
If I’m pettier, ppl will like me.
If I’m skinnier, ppl will talk to me. But it was me who hid from ppl bc I was so concerned about how they think of me and my broken English.
The more I compared myself to others, the more I hated myself.
So.. I decided to Join the gym to lose weight. And I did.
I will post how#fitness change me into this person.
How fitness Helped me to find #me and self esteem #fitbodybyjessica#healthcoach#wellnesscoach#selfesteemcoahing#healthyliving#healhtylifestyle#godislove#healthier#loveyourself
I lived in Korea for 14 years before I moved to America.
Back in Korea, I was attending girls school for two years and the school had very strict rules for clothes.
The skirt had to be below the knees.
The hair length had to be around the bottom of ear lobes.
Did I follow the rules?
Of course! I did.
I was a good .
But the thing changed once i moved in here.
I could wear a skirt that is above my knees and I could let my hair grow long.
Now... that’s called #freedom
So I started to wear mini skirts and let my hair grow but I found out something that I had no idea.
My legs are short, my calves are big, my legs are curved , my legs are stubby, my hairs are frizzy and my hairs are curly.
My idea for a prefect body was to have skinny straight legs and straight frizzy free hair.
Omg! The moment I found out how horrible I looked in mini skirt and my hair, I stopped wearing skirts, I started to get straight perm my hair.
As a teenager, your looks is all about. On top of it, I barley spoke due to language barrier that I became wallpaper.
I didn’t like my body.
I didn’t like my life.
I didn’t like anything about me. I was very depressed. I was very sad. I was very confused. I questioned my existence everyday. I started writing daily how I hated my life. I’ve never told anybody my struggle until I was 37 years.
I carried that baggage with me for 23 years.
What happened to me?
That will be tomm post.
Come back and check out my story!
The reason for this pic is that I’m showing my stubby short legs.
I am comfortable with my body and I like my body.
Stay tuned for tomm post what changed my life to start love myself?
. #fitbodybyjessica#fitbodyworld#healthcoach#wellnesscoach#selfesteemcoach #loveyourself#love#healthyliving#workout#mondaymotivation#mondayquotes#girlswholift#womaninbusiness
What exercise that makes muscle quicker?
1. Weight training
4. Sitting on your ass and typing how to gain muscle
The answer is
You know the answer. If you don’t, you are in a big trouble.
Let’s go back to how I got Into the training. Back in 2009, I became a stay home wife. After the cancer thing , i knew that I wanted to do something that I always thought about. It was to become a #personaltrainer. So I took one year off and concentrate on myself. Studying and exercising .
I’ve never thought about weight training as my kinda exercise. I was doing the group classes and I had weight set at home that I was doing some light weight lifting. I’ve never even thought about doing weight training inside the gym.
The weight area is scary area. I call it “dark side”.
Then how did I get into it?
One morning, I was In the cardio and weight class, I got bored. I was just plain bored that I was going through emotion. And the light bulb came up. “Gotta get out that comfort zone and start lifting weight”. Around that time, I was reading books and magazines about weight training for women. I liked how these women looked and they did not look manly.
The muscles on their body didn’t look bad at all and I kinda want to look like them.
So after the class, I picked out the room and looked at the other side of gym which is weight area. I saw all men and that was pretty scary and intimidating.
What if they look at me ?
What if they judge me?
What if I did something wrong then I will be look like a fool!
What if I am not that strong?
And I don’t even know how to do or what to do.
Long story short.
It took me one year to feel more confident being in that room.
It took me about 2 years to understand the science behind weight training .
It took me 3 years to be a bad ass.
And here i am after 10 years into this...
I know what I’m doing.
I know what works and what doesn’t work.
I am still the #badass.
Weight lifting changed my body but mostly , it helped to love myself for the first time. #happy Friday #fitbodybyjessica#fitnessgirl#healthcoach#healhtylifestyle#healthyliving#changelife#womenwholift#breastcancer#fitnes
Plz read all the questions and if you have more than 5 yes, then YOU are addicted to SUGAR!!!! The more sugar you eat, the more your tolerance adapts, so you end up eating more and more sugar to get the same high- drug addicts and alcoholics experience the same cycle. But it’s ok because there is hope. You can detox from sugar and break the cycle of reliance and addition. I have been wanted to the work shop for this and It’s time to this workshop for you guys.
I am thinking about doing this on 8/25 at 9 or 10 am.
It’s free!!! But I will need to know who will be attending so plz let me know.
Non members are welcome!!
I will post the detail soon!
If you have been struggling with sugar, plz attend this workshop. What do you got to lose?