How many times do you doubt yourself in a day? Is it one time a day? Two, three or maybe even more?
Why do we doubt ourselves? Are we afraid of not being good enough? Or are we afraid we can't be our best selves? Or are we too afraid to even try?
Don't let 'being afraid' stop you from pursuing your dreams!
If we spend most of our day doubting and in fear, time will slowly run out to live the best possible life we can. Don't waste even a minute with fearful thoughts and doubts. Instead charge ahead and do what you love to do! What do you have to lose?
New blog post up on 'How to turn your life around series'!! I think you would probably agree when I say, if you don’t actually cut out the negativity in your life there is only so far you can go till you come tumbling back to your old life again. And boy have I tumbled!
When I started to count the amount of negativity I had held onto over the years, I was shocked about how much time I was consuming and energy I was wasting over such meaningless things. Every one of us is different and we all don’t have the same things that consume us, but one thing is clear—we all harbour some sort of negativity within us.
The next step to turning your life around is to let go of all that negativity.
Check out my post of cutting out negativity and let me know if it helps! Link in the bio
Last year on 27 May 2017, I launched Her Tribe Magazine. I was working a crappy job, didn't make enough to keep myself afloat and was in a really dark place. Her Tribe was like a glimmer of hope, an idea I had for a while but never acted on it. Miserable and desperate for a change, I decided I had nothing to lose and launched this blog. And for the last year, it has been a wonderful ride.
I was inconsistent, was completely out of my depth, and messed up a lot!! I had ideas I couldn't keep up with, inspiration I couldn't jot down, and insecurities that dawned out of nowhere.
All that being said, it has still been the best experience. Her Tribe has made me feel stronger and like I have a voice. It makes me feel energised and motivated to keep doing better. I've never felt so excited about anything else before.
Working on it last year was like having hope in the darkness. Since then I've come a long way, I am now have a great day job that I love, my life is much more stable than it used to be, and most importantly I'm feeling more like myself every day. A big reason things have fallen into place has been because of Her Tribe. It is my dream and I feel so grateful to be able to work on it.
If you have a similar dream, maybe you want to be a freelancer, or start a YouTube channel or a small business. Just go ahead and do it! Don't lose that passion and drive. Roll with it. It will open doors you never knew existed.
Sometimes being productive can help me feel in control. That's probably why I love it so much, it makes me feel good. But in the last few weeks my "productivity" always made me feel good for exactly ten minutes before I crashed with exhaustion.
Have you felt like being crazy productive was making you tired and exhausted?
I sure did. I spent so much time trying to get on top of my to do list just to end up feeling to tired to enjoy my weekend or rest of the day. I'd get everything done and the have no energy to hold a conversation with Matt over dinner. Now I'm thinking are those elaborate lists necessary? Especially when it's not bringing me any joy or energy?
So in the last few days I took a break from Her Tribe, from excessive cleaning, from chores, from planning, from socialising and from the obsessive need on top of my to do lists. Basically a mental and physical break. And you know what? The world didn't end!
It made me think how much I want to get done in my day, and is it really possible? Was I enjoying it? Or was I just doing it for some other reason? Like to impress people or feel proud or think I'm finally worthy. Every time I try to slow down, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm being lazy, pathetic and unambitious. And people would definitely judge me or not think I'm good enough.
But is it worth it?
Not really! What's the point of checking all the lists if it isn't making you any happier?
So on my birthday this year, I've made a new commitment to myself to be join the Slow Movement. I'm done with excessive to do lists, running around like a headless chook and trying to get everything done in a short space of time. I'm committing to taking care of myself, not caring what people think and really doing the things that bring ME joy. I'm also committing to taking rest unashamedly and unapologetically.
I don't want to keep going in a direction that feels like I'm heading for a burnout. It would make everything I did so far completely pointless. Taking care of myself first has ironically always been the most productive thing I could do. Cause somehow everything falls in place once I do that.
I'm super excited to share my first collaboration with you guys! I've been following @therefinedwoman for quite some time now and was so thrilled when I found out they were interested in featuring me in their #bosslady series!!
The article is a Q&A about my life, goals and lessons I've learnt over the years. I've tried to keep it real and have been extremely honest. I would love to know if you can relate with what I've shared.
If you don't follow them already, check them out now! Also please don't forget to show me some love: like, comment and share
Finally a huge thank you to my bro @art_and_craftbeer for helping me and clicking the photographs!