Self Love + Confidence Coach@kay_ska

✨Award winning Mental Health Blogger
🌼Healing from PTSD
πŸ’›Founder of @MH_Stories_
🌻Mindful & ethical lifestyle
πŸ“North West, UK

https://linktr.ee/kay_ska

Ahhh, nothing makes me more happy than a good, juicy watermelon!πŸ˜»πŸ‰πŸ’¦
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For someone who has struggled with eating disorders and body dysmorphia for majority of her life, I’m so happy to be able to actually have more mindful relationship with food now!
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Changing my relationship with food was probably one of the biggest and most important thing in my own recovery (and most challenging one too!). Actually viewing foods as an essential fuel for my body, choosing more of foods that nourish my mind AND body. Letting go of the guilt (or shame when binge eating) I had previously attached to eating. Rejecting the diet mentality and any of the labels it puts on different foods. Listening to my body, honouring hunger just as much as honouring fullness. .
The recovery process is fulllll of growing and learning. And reminding ourselves to be kind to ourselves through EVERY single step of itπŸ™πŸ». We are always ENOUGH, exactly as we are, RIGHT NOW☺️✨
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Tshirt @ethcs (you can use kayska at the checkout to get 10% off!)
Dungarees @lucyandyak #ethicalfashion


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Self Love is not something outside of you. The love that you seek is already within you.
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It is so incredibly important to take time off for yourself, to recharge and to allow that energy of Love within you to grow!
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It is available to every single person in the world. And it available to YOU right now!
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Often times, we might feel guilty for taking time just for ourselves. Feeling like we have to always be there for everyone else, worry about every single thing we see on the news and feel awful that there’s not much we can do to help. But actually, not feeding into those things and others drama is probably the best thing we can do for ourselves and for everyone around us!
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Charging your own love and making your self care a priority is not selfish. It’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your own mental health!
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What are the things that recharge your battery?☺️✨
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If you are seeking one to one guidance to help you with finding more balance in your life, body image issues, confidence or any aspects of self love (including & not limited to self care, self acceptance, self trust) send me an email to kayska@yahoo.co.uk or DM for more info on my Self Love + Confidence coaching sessions. My approach comes from my own personal battles (+qualifications & courses I’ve completed) with PTSD, self harm, anxiety, eating disorders, depression and body dysmorphia.
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Have you ever seen sunflower grow?
I’m super grateful to have been watching quite a few of them growing in our back garden this year. And let me tellll ya, they take their blooody time!

BUT, look at their stem! It’s one of the thickest ones you’ll see in flowers. And that’s for a good reason, right? Building that solid foundation to be able to hold themselves up and grow talll!

That’s kind of what I think about the recovery process, we are building our own foundations, that will help us to stand tall in this world of chaos.
We might not have yet (or feel like we haven’t) fully blossomed, but we are working hard nonetheless!

Every time I feel fed up and inpatient with this whole process, I try to remind myself how far I’ve already come and how strong my foundation already is. And it’s only getting stronger.
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Some blooming processes take more time than others. Be patient with YOUrself and your own journey.πŸ™πŸ»
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PS. I always love finding creative things I can do that don’t involve me being glued to my laptop or phone, so yup, this is from my art journal!πŸ˜…πŸŒ»βœ¨
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*10 seconds transformation.

Whenever you catch yourself comparing your body (or life) to others, just remember that you’re most likely not seeing EVERYTHING. There’s always a flip side to everything.

It’s become easy for me to post these kind of photos. Of course, I didn’t feel like that from the start. But, as I’ve been learning and growing to love and accept myself for just being me and having this body - it’s become a lot easier. I’ve also, stopped giving much thought to what others think and that my friends is extremely empowering! I highly recommend it!πŸ€—
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And this is your friendly reminder, that no matter what your body looks like you are WORTHY of self love!
Your body is an instrument for YOUR use, not an ornament to be admired.
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I am constantly blown away by the power of sharing and expressing ourselves and our stories.
Sometimes sharing our own emotions can help other people to feel theirs and that is actually so important in the times we live in!
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Earlier this week, I shared a lot of emotions on my story talking a little bit about my experience of being sexually abused. Which I was so dissociated from for the past few years. I didn't want to look at this part of my life or think about it.
But, somewhere deep inside I found some courage to actually look at the pain and recent flashbacks dreams kind of forced me to as well.
The pain, guilt and shame that came with it felt almost unbearable. I felt so heartbroken for my teenage self who trusted someone for years, and who actually really was so toxic in my life. I felt so ashamed that I didn't know any better.
But, yet with allll of the feeeels that I finally allowed myself to feel came so much freedom. I felt like a huge weight dropped off my shoulders.
I felt so fragile, but yet so in peace.

Huge part of me sharing my vulnerabilities on here is to help others through my own experience. But, something I'm always very conscious of is to actually walk my own talk. So, there I was 100% in, allowing myself to FEEL. As uncomfortable and painful as it was, it was also very temporary.

I know that pain still does and will arise and I will try my best to be present with it. Because I know on the other side of pain there is freedom, there is love, peace and so much JOY.
And I'm ready to take my power back.

I'm finding so much strength I didn't even know I had through this turbulent healing process.πŸ™πŸ»
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For every single person who has shared their story with me or is not ready to talk about their own experience just yet I just want you to remember that you are NOT ALONE in this.
The abuse you have experienced doesn't and will never define you!
You are stronger than you think.

You deserve to be happy!!! Please, be kind and gentle with yourself.🌻✨
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#DanceForJoy

Dancing has been in my life since a very young age. I’m pretty sure it was my first love. However, growing up in any competitive environment, where you are constantly compared to other people can be really damaging.
I grew up as a chubby kid/teenager, and I didn’t feel like there was any place for me in the dancing or even performing world.

I never stopped loving dance though. But, I did think I wasn’t worthy of doing things that I love because of the way my body looked and not feeling good enough.
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Things are so very different now. Dance has been so healing for me and my journey. First of all I stopped comparing myself to everyone else. And started to connect with my body and appreciate it for what it is! An incredible vessel that allows me to experience this beautiful life.

I now dance for JOY! I focus more on how it FEELS to my soul and how freeeeing it is to my body!☺️ #DanceForJoy
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What realllly makes your soul happy?✨
Do you wish you could more of that? Why don’t you?β˜ΊοΈπŸ™πŸ»βœ¨
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Music by @jeremyloops πŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸ’– Songs (in that order)-See I wrote it for you, -Thieves, -Runaway kids, -Down South.
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Wearing: Trousers @lucyandyak
My Warr;or tee (link in bio)😜 #ethicalfashion


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There are times when I dissociate from my own feelings. Times where I would rather emotionally eat than face them. Times when I don’t really want to look at the pain, and would much rather distract and disconnect myself from it.

There are times when I’m scared that those uncomfortable emotions would become too much, that they would completely swallow me up, with no way out.

There are times when I have to constantly remind myself that IT IS OKAY TO FEEL and actually allllow myself to feeel.
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Healing can only happen when we allow ourselves to feel.
Reminding ourselves, that all of the emotions are temporary. As uncomfortable and painful as they might be, they are our teachers.

When we can hold that space for ourselves and allow ourselves to feel them they really can become less overwhelming and can actually (and usually do) pass so much quicker.

Less disconnecting & more allowing, more expressing, more accepting ourselves right where are, right nowπŸ™πŸ»βœ¨
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In a society that glamourises the constant hustle, it can be extremely challenging to slow down and actually allow ourselves to do NOTHING.

It is something I often struggle with. I honestly do prefer when I'm full of energy, dancing around and getting shit done.
But, I do have to remind myself that I'm only a human.
Allowing myself to rest, take it easy and recharge my own battery is just as important! And actually is so much more beneficial when I don't resist it.

So, while my phone has been sent to repair and getting it's battery changed, I'm allowing myself to kick back, focus on recharging my own battery and do more of nothingπŸ˜ŽπŸ™
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How does your inner battery feel? Do you need more of that balance?β˜ΊοΈβ€οΈπŸ§‘πŸ’›πŸ’šπŸ’™πŸ’œ


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You’re probably not here for the perfect selfies, but if you are you might want to look away nowπŸ˜‚ #sorrynotsorry
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β€œPeople will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” - @abrahamhickspublications . This is one of my favourite quotes from Abraham Hicks. It has created a huge shift in my life and the way I view myself.
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Whenever I feel more affected by other people’s judgements I know that is my cue to spend more with mySELF!β˜ΊοΈπŸ™πŸ»
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It really is empowering to be able to accept yourself, your own personality and actually embrace who you are.
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We are all so unique, in every aspect!
Beauty is what we make it,
let's celebrate our differences,
love ourselves and our bodies for what they are!✨
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And remember that you are ENOUGH, exactly as we are, right NOW!☺️
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Feeling myself in my @shethinx period pants (while my uterus is screaming & kicking on the insideπŸ€ͺ)!
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I am super happy to say that I’ve completely cut out using pads/tampons now!! Which, not only feels amazing for my bottom (thanks to that organic cotton😻), but helps to reduce the usage of plastic! Helping the environment, and helping my bank account!
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I love nothing more than supporting brands that do amazing things and spread important messages.
@shethinx is committed to offering sustainable alternatives to traditional period products, as well as combating period poverty and menstrual inequity in all its forms, while smashing taboos about menstruation and menstrual health in general!πŸ™ŒπŸ»
Definitely worth checking and giving them a try☺️! Now available online as of today - you can swipe up to get yours in my stories!
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We are nature.
It is not something separate from us. When we say/feel that we have lost the connection to nature, we’ve lost our connection to ourselves.πŸŒΏβ˜€οΈπŸŒˆ
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I used to dream of days where I would be able to feel more peace and actually appreciate it. Both within my body and my mind.
Even though working on the mind is a daily thing. I’m so thankful for being able to find more peace, acceptance and love within. That is truly pricelessπŸ™πŸ».
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We are nature, we can learn so much from it.
Stillness. Beauty. Peace. It is alll around us.☺️🌻✨
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And yup, I spent majority of my birthday in my birthday suit & it felt great!!☺️ Recovery really can feel so flipping incredible (at timesπŸ˜‰)!!πŸ™πŸ»
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Celebrating another trip around the sun!πŸ˜ŽπŸ’ƒπŸ»πŸŽ‰βœ¨
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Last year I decided that I wanted to celebrate myself and my life more often than just one day of the year.
Now, I don’t just talk about gratitude, but I FEEEEL immense gratitude for everything around me, more than I have ever felt before!✨
And I am so incredibly grateful for being able to share a little bit of my journey on here and connect with so many wonderful soulsβ˜ΊοΈπŸ™πŸ»
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I hope you enjoy some of the BTS of this photoπŸ˜‰. I’m so not used to other people taking photos of me! And I was asking my mum what I was supposed to do with that hand/what looked β€˜better’, I guess you can decide on that oneπŸ€ͺπŸ˜‚


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